Hi Niels,
Glad the Noga's are working so well for you!

Sorry you're having trouble with the paint.
Sometimes I use steel bases other than the "lighting stage" around the Bratcam. My choice, in these cases, is steel weights intended for athletic weight training on barbells. Their finish seems to be very durable, and a quick check just now shows that at least some of them have "baked enamel paint." I choose weights that are heavy enough not to need to be bolted down, which makes them easy to rearrange. I typically grab a 10-pound plate for the Big Boy (especially if I'm mounting a large monolight on it), but a five-pound plate will often work; a 2.5 pound plate works well for the smaller stands holding speedlights.
The finish on the
Bratcam's lighting skirt is professional powdercoating, which is, in my experience much more durable than paint (although it can still be scratched if I drag the Noga magnetic bases across them. These scratches have been superficial, and I certainly don't get any removal of the coating from simply attaching and detaching the magnets. The prices I've paid for the service have been very reasonable--$10-20 for each of my parts. I do tell the powercoating company that it's OK to delay my job until they happen to be doing flat black; they often run hundreds of parts for a client, and no way to I want them to do a special run for my one or two parts at a time.
The ease with which your paint is coming off seems a bit excessive. I take that you got the metal "squeaky clean," possibly with a solvent such as acetone, before applying the paint? And that you first put down a coat of metal primer? Back before I started using professional powdercoating, I had my fabricator, Don Wilson, make a metal frame to go on top of the truck for long camping trips in the desert. Today, I'd take it straight from Don's shop to the powdercoating facility. But back then, I cleaned it, primed it, and painted it. After more than a decade of hard use, the paint is still in pretty good shape.
Good luck!
--Chris