Thomas,
Thanks for the additional info. Whatever it is that you're doing, it's working great! The reason I asked was only because the movies
are so good. I borrow technique shamelessly!
About the brightness, you're probably at the mercy of your camera to a great extent. It turns out that on average, most scenes are gray. Maybe they average around 12% gray, maybe it's 18% (see
here for that discussion), but roughly speaking, it's, um, gray.
So what the meters in cameras do is to measure the highlights, the shadows, and the stuff in between, then pick a compromise exposure that strikes some sort of balance between that average gray and not blowing out the highlights or blacking out the dark parts too badly. The compromise turns your brightfield into lighter gray and your darkfield into darker gray, but they're still, um, gray.
If you reduce the light levels, chances are that the camera will just increase its exposure to make up the difference. That would leave you with the same gray, and maybe throw in some really nice motion blur as part of the "bargain".
You
may be able to set "exposure compensation" on your camera to make the brightfield brighter and the darkfield darker, but those will probably take two different settings so it will interfere with switching between the two. (On my Canon SD700 IS, it's called "exposure shift", and according to the manual, the dang thing will reset almost every time I touch a control.)
Sorry for the gloomy predictions.

I'd love to be wrong here, and if you figure out something better, please let us know!
In the meantime, rest assured that your movies look great and what we really want is to see more of them.
--Rik