Hi Rik:
I recall reading someone commenting "you don't miss much". I'll second that.
1. Technique: 105mm AF Micro Nikkor + 4T close-up lens; for dorsal shot a headless insect pin (heads these days are nylon or plastic, easily removed with a match) into ventral thorax but not all the way through (I hope Doug is not reading this -"Take nothing but pictures - leave nothing but footprints" ) pinned onto a piece of foam in front of a, theoretically, neutral grey background. So I feel justified in bringing it back to a neutral grey in Photoshop. The face shot shows the pin (sometimes I will Photoshop it out if it detracts badly).
These are meant to be 'technical' shots for identification.
For the side shot, the pin is placed horizontally into the thorax (but not through the thorax) and pinned into a vertical board.
Lighting is from a single Nikon SB800 flash, off camera above the fly. Light is diffused by a tube of regular white 8.5 x 11" office paper. The fly is pinned inside this paper tube, cheap and effective.
About 15 shots @ f16, stacked with Helicon Focus. Camera "locked down" and the fly, it's tube, and the background moved forward on a RRS focussing rail.
The fly is, of course, dead; but has to be fresh as eye colour fades quickly (about a day).
Same individual, a female. Males don't seek blood so are rarely seen.
2. Never seen any convincing explanation for eye pattern in any tabanid.
3. Hunt in packs? Yes. I did some research on arrival sequence of tabanids (mostly Horse Flies) to a tabanid trap, timing the arrival of each fly. Certainly wasn't random. Deer Flies tend to sit and wait for a host to pass near by. Likely that they select certain sites for this and thus there will be places with no flies and other places with several. But I can't rule out they are aware of each other and do actually attack as a group.
Hope to see some tabanid photos from your area next year- accept the challenge.
EDIT: set-up
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